4 red flags in dating

Red flags can be hard to spot initially, but they often become bigger and more problematic over time. That's why it's important to approach dating with mutual curiosity and respect for each other's boundaries. When done right, dating should feel exciting, joyful, and meaningful. By being attentive to any red flags and prioritizing open communication and mutual respect, you can foster a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Here are some red flags to look out for:

1. “My way or the highway”

You only see each other when it's convenient for the person you are dating. It seems like everything revolves around your date's schedule and energy. It's easy to feel that you are being taken for granted, which of course is not okay. Here, it's important to set boundaries by being mindful of your own time and energy.

Signs can be

• If you don't get in touch, they won't either.
• It is always the other person who decides when you will see each other.
• You often get last-minute messages that something else came up or that they had forgotten your date.

2. "I love you"

Telling the difference between love and love bombing is not always easy. The emotions may be similar but the true intentions behind the romantic, affirming grand gestures are not the same.

Signs can be

• You notice that the dating intensified, very quickly.
• The person always says and does exactly the right things.
• Things that usually takes some time ("I love you", moving in together, etc.) instead happens almost immediately.
• You feel absorbed by the love and the person.

3. "What do you mean, "no"?"

Your boundaries are ignored. This is never okay – no matter what type of relationship it is.

Signs can be

• They guilt trip you when you can't or don't have the energy to see each other.
• They keep going or persist, even when you say no.
• You have to repeatedly explain what you think is okay and what's not.
• You have a lump in the stomach after you've spent time together.

4. “All my exes are crazy”

While it's possible that a person has had negative experiences in past relationships, it's important to pay attention to how they talk about their exes. Do they speak about them with respect and understanding, or do they engage in negative or vindictive behavior? How someone talks about their exes can be a reflection of their maturity and emotional intelligence.

Signs can be

• You start to hear similarities in how crazy and difficult ALL their previous partners have been.
• It is ALWAYS the ex's fault.

Take care of yourself and your feelings 💜